I just recently stumbled upon the whole "vaginismus" issue, because prior to that I thought either something was very wrong with me (and I was therefore experiencing a lot of pain during sex) OR I just wasn't lubricated enough (and I was therefore experiencing a lot of pain during sex). If this is you, don't keep trying different lubricants trying to find the magic one! That's not the issue! You, too, may have never had this issue in the past, never had children, and still find yourself at the vaginismus party. Everything's going to be fine. Side note: WATCH the MTV True Life episode, "I can't have sex." It will make you feel far less embarrassed and maybe even kind of empowered.
I was wildly embarrassed to buy this, but the price is too good to not try it out. It works. I went through all 4 sizes on my first try (something that would NOT have worked out if I started with the largest) and have been trying to spend at least a little time working on it every day since. It's been a week or so, and I am ALMOST back to normal in the realm of non-painful sex. I can't believe it. I guess I forgot how stressful it was to know that sex would hurt, which led to avoiding it, which led to needless embarrassment, which led to all kinds of other relationship stress.
Don't let it happen. Talk to your partner about what's going on, what options are out there, and buy this. Yes, it's embarrassing. But no, it SHOULDN'T be. You will be back to your bad self in no time.
